Frequently Asked Questions

Questions couples ask before they book.

Working with an officiant is a deeply personal decision — and it's completely normal to have a lot of questions before reaching out. Here are the ones I hear most often. If something isn't covered here, my inbox is always open.

  • Yes. I'm an ordained, non-denominational minister and fully authorized to solemnize marriages throughout the State of New Jersey. Cherished Vows Officiant Services LLC is a registered New Jersey business. Once your ceremony is complete, I file the signed marriage license with the appropriate county clerk — your marriage is fully legal.

  • It means your ceremony won't be tied to any specific religion, faith tradition, or belief system — unless you want it to be. I work with couples who are religious, spiritual-but-not-religious, secular, interfaith, or anywhere in between. Your beliefs — or absence of them — shape the ceremony, not mine.

  • Absolutely. Every couple is welcome — full stop. Love is love, and every relationship deserves a ceremony that honors it with the same care and intention.

  • It starts with a conversation. We talk about your relationship: how you met, what you love about each other, what this day means to you, and what you want people in those seats to feel. I take everything we discuss and craft a ceremony script that sounds like the two of you, not like a template. You review it, we refine it together, and by the time your wedding day arrives, every word is exactly right.

  • The Elopement Package is designed for ceremonies up to 10 minutes — efficient, intimate, and complete. The Classic Ceremony and South Jersey Ceremony run 20 to 30 minutes, which is the sweet spot for a full wedding ceremony that flows naturally without feeling rushed or drawn out. Vow renewals are typically similar in length to an Elopement, though we can adjust based on what you envision.

  • Absolutely. Unity candles, sand ceremonies, handfasting, ring warming, readings by family or friends, moments of silence, cultural traditions — if it's meaningful to you, we can include it. Just bring it up in our consultation and I'll weave it into the ceremony naturally.

  • That's completely fine. Being non-denominational doesn't mean excluding faith — it means not imposing it. If a prayer, a blessing, a scripture reading, or another faith element is important to you, we'll include it. The ceremony is yours to shape.

  • I recommend reaching out as early as possible. Spring (May–June) and fall (September–October) are the busiest seasons for weddings in the region, and popular dates can fill quickly. That said, if your date is coming up soon, reach out anyway — I'll always let you know if I'm available, and I'll do my best to make it work.

  • Your date is secured when two things are in place: a signed service agreement and a 50% deposit. Until both are received, your date remains open. Once they're both confirmed, your date is locked — no uncertainty. The remaining balance is due 14 days before your ceremony.

  • Yes — rehearsals are available as an add-on for $200 with the Classic Ceremony and South Jersey Ceremony packages. A rehearsal is especially valuable for larger wedding parties, outdoor ceremonies with complex layouts, or couples who want that extra layer of confidence going into the day. We'll walk through the processional, positioning, cues, and the ceremony flow so everyone knows exactly what to do when it counts.

  • You and your partner apply for your marriage license together at the municipal clerk's office in the NJ town where your ceremony will take place. There's a 72-hour waiting period after issuance before the license is valid, so plan accordingly. The license is valid for 30 days. On your wedding day, you'll bring the license to the ceremony. After I officiate, I sign it and return it to the issuing clerk — your legal marriage record is then on file. I'm happy to walk you through this process in more detail during our consultation.

  • Yes. After your ceremony I sign your marriage license and return it to the appropriate municipal clerk. You'll receive certified copies of your marriage certificate from that office, which you'll need for name changes, insurance, and other official purposes. I'll confirm the exact process for your specific county during our consultation.

  • No — a vow renewal is a purely celebratory ceremony. You're already married, so there's no license, no filing, and no legal requirements. It's simply a beautiful, intentional ceremony that honors the commitment you've already made and the life you've built since.